RIGHT..What is Right?

A intriguing question..How do you know you are right??

I decided to name my program ‘Art of Right Thinking’ AORT.. a program that lays a strong foundation for further learning and for making sense of what is happening around the world and finally to experience the ever evading Peace, wellbeing and fulfilment in life.

All of us do things that seems and feels right.  When we say that we want to do things right, we actually expect to make the right decisions,   Choose the right action, take the right course that gives the best outcome for ourselves and the life around us.  When the consequence is as we expected we conclude on hindsight that the thought behind the decision was right.

We struggle with the right thought, right decision and right action but Infact we are struggling  where it will lead to, we are doubtful of the result of taking that decision.

‘AORT’ felt right for me as I studied the consequences in detail and checked how I felt when I organised what was needed, simplified it, tested it and seen the outcome.

Based on my studies I suggest to people who have doubt about ‘What is right?’  Check how you feel,  how does it feel to make that decision- pictures yourself going through the steps after taking that decision, How you feel thinking that way, behaving that way..

We all are hard wired for harmony, balance, righteousness, the damage is done by the wrong  learnings.. Trust your instincts, your intuition and gut feelings.. you will know Right from Not Right..

                                    Anchal Dua

Abstain from being Manipulated..

Manipulators are found every where.  In the market place, in social gatherings, News channels, politics, relationships, social media…
When we become target of manipulators, time and time again, it’s hard to know explicitly what our boundaries are.  Though we always have a nagging feeling that our boundaries are bing violated.  Not to mention the good number of people moving around undiagnosed with narssistic personality disorder.

Those of us who are able to manage the manipulators effectively are the ones who are self aware.  Their is amazing freedom in self awareness.  Self awareness and awareness of rights and responsibilities empowers & strengths us which deters the manipulators.

Awareness of human rights and recognising when you are bing manipulated is key to self empowerment.

Few important rights in the context of Manipulation are

  • You have the right to set your own priorities.
  • You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
  • You have the right to say’No’without feeling guilty.
  • You have the right to be treated with respect.
  • You have the right to get what you pay for.
  • You have the right to have opinions different than others.
  • You have the right to take care and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally, emotionally.
  • You have the right to create your happy & healthy life.

Manage your life efficiently by

– Recognising a manipulator and keeping a healthy distance.

– As you become aware of your self you will know your strengths and weaknesses hence cannot be manipulated.

– Whenever you do not feel good in a relationship and the giving is one way with u reasonable demands it is time to alert yourself.

– When could fronted by a manipulator, put the focus o the person who is manipulating by asking questions.

– Take time, do  not respond in affirmation. Consider leveraging time to your advantage.

– Learn to say ‘no’ diplomatically and firmly without feeling guilty.

– Convey to the manipulator that there will be consequences which makes them to think.

–  Do no remain passive and fearful, when you know your rights you will not be fearful and stand up for your rights.

Though all of us are aware of Human rights it is useful to recollect and always remember as these rights are empowering.  The simplified version is given here under for easy recall..

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights:

1. We are all free and equal. We are all born free. We all have our own thoughts and ideas. We should all be treated in the same way.

2. Don’t discriminate. These rights belong to everybody, whatever our differences.

3. The right to life. We all have the right to life, and to live in freedom and safety.

4. No slavery – past and present. Nobody has any right to make us a slave. We cannot make anyone our slave.
5. No Torture. Nobody has any right to hurt us or to torture us.

6. We all have the same right to use the law. I am a person just like you!
7. We are all protected by the law. The law is the same for everyone. It must treat us all fairly.

8. Fair treatment by fair courts. We can all ask for the law to help us when we are not treated fairly.

9. No unfair detainment. Nobody has the right to put us in prison without a good reason and keep us there, or to send us away from our country.
10. The right to trial. If we are put on trial this should be in public. The people who try us should not let anyone tell them what to do.
11. Innocent until proven guilty. Nobody should be blamed for doing something until it is proven. When people say we did a bad thing we have the right to show it is not true.

12. The right to privacy. Nobody should try to harm our good name. Nobody has the right to come into our home, open our letters or bother us or our family without a good reason.

13. Freedom to move. We all have the right to go where we want in our own country and to travel as we wish.

14. The right to asylum. If we are frightened of being badly treated in our own country, we all have the right to run away to another country to be safe.

15. The right to a nationality. We all have the right to belong to a country.

16. Marriage and family. Every grown-up has the right to marry and have a family if they want to. Men and women have the same rights when they are married, and when they are separated.

17. Your own things. Everyone has the right to own things or share them. Nobody should take our things from us without a good reason.

18. Freedom of thought. We all have the right to believe in what we want to believe, to have a religion, or to change it if we want.

19. Free to say what you want. We all have the right to make up our own minds, to think what we like, to say what we think, and to share our ideas with other people.
20. Meet where you like. We all have the right to meet our friends and to work together in peace to defend our rights. Nobody can make us join a group if we don’t want to.

21. The right to democracy. We all have the right to take part in the government of our country. Every grown-up should be allowed to choose their own leaders.

22. The right to social security. We all have the right to affordable housing, medicine, education, and child care, enough money to live on and medical help if we are ill or old.

23. Workers’ rights. Every grown-up has the right to do a job, to a fair wage for their work, and to join a trade union.

24. The right to play. We all have the right to rest from work and to relax.

25. A bed and some food. We all have the right to a good life. Mothers and children, people who are old, unemployed or disabled, and all people have the right to be cared for.

26. The right to education. Education is a right. Primary school should be free. We should learn about the United Nations and how to get on with others. Our parents can choose what we learn.

27. Culture and copyright. Copyright is a special law that protects one’s own artistic creations and writings; others cannot make copies without permission. We all have the right to our own way of life and to enjoy the good things that “art,” science and learning bring.

28. A free and fair world. There must be proper order so we can all enjoy rights and freedoms in our own country and all over the world.
29. Our responsibilities. We have a duty to other people, and we should protect their rights and freedoms.30. Nobody can take away these rights and freedoms from us.

* List provided by Youth For Human Rights International, adapted and simplified from the 1948 Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

                                                                Anchal Dua

We are Best Friends 

We are BEST FRIENDS My mind, My intellect and ME
The day I forged an alliance with my mind and intellect was the day I realised that their are unlimited possibilities and abundance in this universe. I thank my mind for supporting me and standing by me during every experience of events in my life. 

But I must admit things were difficult back then,  for the longest of time we were enemies. My mind never supported me, was almost always critical and accused me for my shortcomings. In spite of having what it takes it always kept me stressed out of my wits. It kept reminding me of all that I could not do.  

My mind told things that were outrageous like “don’t pick up that phone, you will not be able to hear a thing’’ can anything be worse than that?!

My mind was not satisfied with anything, not satisfied with self, not satisfied with situations, not satisfied with others, it was hell, Nothing I did could satisfy this enemy within.  

I remember the day when my intellect said enough is enough, and my intellect befriended me and from thereon there was no looking back, we became great friends and every decision I made after that was with consultation with my dearest friend ’intellect’.  The choices I made before our relationship began was pathetic but my friend my intellect’ advised me to go along and promised all the support in dealing with the not so good choices that I made early on.
Slowly I felt my mind feeling left out and abandoned, and perhaps due to extreme loneliness and disillusionment my mind decided to befriend me and support me in all my endeavours. Now we are best of friends, almost to the point of being thick as thieves. Sometimes I am surprised as to how friendly they have become with me that even my unreasonable demands are met by them without a single question whatsoever. They gave me the key to the ‘secret’ of fulfilling all my desires.

Friends it’s a wonderful state to be in. No amount of positive affirmations or positive thinking works if you have not yet befriended your mind.

Friends don’t loose precious time and befriend your mind and your intellect and experience the generosity of the creator.

Anchal Dua 
 

5 Chants for victorious living


Build in your mentality the idea of balanced life,  Peace and   Prosperity. Whatever the conscious mind affirms the subconscious mind must agree, the most dominant idea will be accepted. The ideas you affirm consciously must not be mentally denied as it will neutralise the good that is affirmed. Be in good mental terms with everyone. 

These chants repeated daily before going to sleep daily brings honour to your claim.

1. I am an elite performer seeing change as opportunity and having fun while I create success.

2.  My thoughts words and actions are aligned. I give of my talents and I am blessed.

3.  I am aware of my body and mind, I am reaping the richness of my body and mind.

4.  I am creating my reality and I understand my responsibility.

5.  Infinite intelligence governs all my financial transactions and whatever I do shall prosper.

Anchal Dua

Steps to recognise limiting beliefs & replace it with empowering beliefs

To experience personal & professional excellence we need to create new empowering paradigms such as ..’I am a winner’ ‘I am unique with unique talent and experience’ ‘I am recognising my full potential’ ‘I deserve everything that life has to offer

This self directed journey has 6 simple steps

1.  Recognise what are your limiting beliefs are in these 7 major areas: Happiness, wealth, Health, career, relationships, love, life.  Write it down so that you get clarity about it.  These are your conscious beliefs. Now write down what new goals and empowering beliefs you want to imprint in the subconscious that will propel you to experience wealth, prosperity, vitality, peace, happiness..

The source of these conscious beliefs are the subconscious beliefs.  The subconscious beliefs remain hidden but continues to run in the background, sometimes mocking at you, teasing you, hurting you, limiting you..

2. Next step is to go back in time and recollect some of the incidences that caused you to develop the limiting belief. Might be that parents or close family repeated these statements repeatedly at home and believed in it. When you were at an Impressionable age of 3 to 6yrs you absorbed what you saw, heard & tasted without filtering or judging it and on repeatedly hearing it, it gets imprinted in the subconscious mind. All of the disempowering beliefs reside here.

3. Third step is to access the subconscious mind which is very simple.  When brain waves are at Theta state -a state when your consciousness is blurred in drowsiness, or when you are slipping to meditative state with thought waves of 4 to 7 cycles per second with no negative emotions you are having access to subconscious mind.

4. At this stage with guided visualisation you got to bring alive all the disempowering beliefs and replace it with empowering beliefs that you wrote under each area of your life.

5.  Vividly visualise how you will feel when you achieve all your goals based on the new beliefs. Consistently visualise it for 21 days without doubting. Practice affirmations when doubt tries to sabotage your effort.

6. The last and important step is to be in the company of a trusted mentor/ friend who will support you in this endeavour.

Anchal Dua

BELIEF SYSTEMS

“You send out more messages with your belief system than you do with your spoken words.  If your belief systems are not in line with your spoken words, your spoken words will only have a small impact upon the enrichment of your life”

                                                       – Vedam Clementi 

From the moment life is initiated on earth, memory begins it’s endless storage of data and we rely on this storage to define our existence.  Memory is a storage & retrieval system that gets information from five senses, sublimal, genetic system and also from learnings. Memory consists of everything we are.  Our learnings, experiences, impressions, informations, belief systems make up the memory. Beliefs are internal conclusions & constructs that are held as REAL until updated, revised or replaced.  Data in memory does not alter itself unless transformed by new information.  

This potential  restricts our life by the ownership of each script creating walls of prison thereby restricting our life. We live with our belief systems, we transmit our belief systems.  Belief systems are a set of mutually supportive beliefs, Beliefs being a state or habit of mind in which trust is placed in some person or thing.  Beliefs can be classified into religious, philosophical, ideological..

Thoughts are based on the data ( belief systems, information, impressions) that is stored in the memory.  When one is conscious; thoughts are generated based on the data that is stored, when thoughts, ideas, intution, imagination are generated from the memory,  we perceive it as Mind.  When intution & imagination combines, the floodgates of creativity opens.

Belief Systems occupy a considerable part of our memory and it’s source is family, social environment, education, experience and will power. The dynamic source ‘Will power ‘ is of great value as with will powe we can script    progressive belief systems that will catapult us to great achievement.

It is necessary to understand belief systems and the source of belief systems because outdated belief system is a hindrance to progress and wellbeing.  Some beliefs you have are very good but you do not know how to use it for example: you have photoshop in your computer but you use it only for cropping & touch up.  There is so much more you can do with it if only you took time to learn about it. It is imperative to know and understand belief systems which one holds so that we can update, revise or replace it. 

Few examples of outdated belief systems are:

1. Anger is necessary to get work done.

2.  Life is difficult.

3.  Happiness is conditional.

4.  Others are responsible for my situation.

5.  Life is a game.

6.  Nothing good will happen to me.

7. Money is the cause of all problems.

8. One can’t have everything in life.

9. God favours a few.

10. God punishes us.

To change your life and experience well being, you need to change the script/paradigms.  If your mind is a bit cluttered with error codes and outdated script, it’s time to develop your mind, speed up the process of updating and enjoy a fuller life.
Steps to recognise flawed belief systems, revising it, and retaining healthy belief systems will follow in the subsequent updates….

Anchal Dua