Manipulators are found every where. In the market place, in social gatherings, News channels, politics, relationships, social media…
When we become target of manipulators, time and time again, it’s hard to know explicitly what our boundaries are. Though we always have a nagging feeling that our boundaries are bing violated. Not to mention the good number of people moving around undiagnosed with narssistic personality disorder.
Those of us who are able to manage the manipulators effectively are the ones who are self aware. Their is amazing freedom in self awareness. Self awareness and awareness of rights and responsibilities empowers & strengths us which deters the manipulators.
Awareness of human rights and recognising when you are bing manipulated is key to self empowerment.
Few important rights in the context of Manipulation are
- You have the right to set your own priorities.
- You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
- You have the right to say’No’without feeling guilty.
- You have the right to be treated with respect.
- You have the right to get what you pay for.
- You have the right to have opinions different than others.
- You have the right to take care and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally, emotionally.
- You have the right to create your happy & healthy life.
Manage your life efficiently by
– Recognising a manipulator and keeping a healthy distance.
– As you become aware of your self you will know your strengths and weaknesses hence cannot be manipulated.
– Whenever you do not feel good in a relationship and the giving is one way with u reasonable demands it is time to alert yourself.
– When could fronted by a manipulator, put the focus o the person who is manipulating by asking questions.
– Take time, do not respond in affirmation. Consider leveraging time to your advantage.
– Learn to say ‘no’ diplomatically and firmly without feeling guilty.
– Convey to the manipulator that there will be consequences which makes them to think.
– Do no remain passive and fearful, when you know your rights you will not be fearful and stand up for your rights.
Though all of us are aware of Human rights it is useful to recollect and always remember as these rights are empowering. The simplified version is given here under for easy recall..
The Universal Declaration of Human Rights:
1. We are all free and equal. We are all born free. We all have our own thoughts and ideas. We should all be treated in the same way.
2. Don’t discriminate. These rights belong to everybody, whatever our differences.
3. The right to life. We all have the right to life, and to live in freedom and safety.
4. No slavery – past and present. Nobody has any right to make us a slave. We cannot make anyone our slave.
5. No Torture. Nobody has any right to hurt us or to torture us.
6. We all have the same right to use the law. I am a person just like you!
7. We are all protected by the law. The law is the same for everyone. It must treat us all fairly.
8. Fair treatment by fair courts. We can all ask for the law to help us when we are not treated fairly.
9. No unfair detainment. Nobody has the right to put us in prison without a good reason and keep us there, or to send us away from our country.
10. The right to trial. If we are put on trial this should be in public. The people who try us should not let anyone tell them what to do.
11. Innocent until proven guilty. Nobody should be blamed for doing something until it is proven. When people say we did a bad thing we have the right to show it is not true.
12. The right to privacy. Nobody should try to harm our good name. Nobody has the right to come into our home, open our letters or bother us or our family without a good reason.
13. Freedom to move. We all have the right to go where we want in our own country and to travel as we wish.
14. The right to asylum. If we are frightened of being badly treated in our own country, we all have the right to run away to another country to be safe.
15. The right to a nationality. We all have the right to belong to a country.
16. Marriage and family. Every grown-up has the right to marry and have a family if they want to. Men and women have the same rights when they are married, and when they are separated.
17. Your own things. Everyone has the right to own things or share them. Nobody should take our things from us without a good reason.
18. Freedom of thought. We all have the right to believe in what we want to believe, to have a religion, or to change it if we want.
19. Free to say what you want. We all have the right to make up our own minds, to think what we like, to say what we think, and to share our ideas with other people.
20. Meet where you like. We all have the right to meet our friends and to work together in peace to defend our rights. Nobody can make us join a group if we don’t want to.
21. The right to democracy. We all have the right to take part in the government of our country. Every grown-up should be allowed to choose their own leaders.
22. The right to social security. We all have the right to affordable housing, medicine, education, and child care, enough money to live on and medical help if we are ill or old.
23. Workers’ rights. Every grown-up has the right to do a job, to a fair wage for their work, and to join a trade union.
24. The right to play. We all have the right to rest from work and to relax.
25. A bed and some food. We all have the right to a good life. Mothers and children, people who are old, unemployed or disabled, and all people have the right to be cared for.
26. The right to education. Education is a right. Primary school should be free. We should learn about the United Nations and how to get on with others. Our parents can choose what we learn.
27. Culture and copyright. Copyright is a special law that protects one’s own artistic creations and writings; others cannot make copies without permission. We all have the right to our own way of life and to enjoy the good things that “art,” science and learning bring.
28. A free and fair world. There must be proper order so we can all enjoy rights and freedoms in our own country and all over the world.
29. Our responsibilities. We have a duty to other people, and we should protect their rights and freedoms.30. Nobody can take away these rights and freedoms from us.
* List provided by Youth For Human Rights International, adapted and simplified from the 1948 Universal Declaration of Human Rights.